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Ask Demetria: His Wife Threw An Iron At My Head

demetria lucas October 26, 2016

Dear Demetria:

“So this is a long one....and quite embarrassing. This passed weekend. I go out to dinner with a guy I've been dating for a month now. It's our 6th time hanging out. Sometimes I drive and sometimes he does. Always been just dinner, comedy club, maybe lounge and then home.

He has never been to my house, I've never been to his. Well after dinner I do go back to his house, we have sex for the 1st [time], protected of course . However at 4 am I wake up, being the light sleeper I am, to a mad woman standing over us in bed. She proceeds to beat on him, and scream every curse...

"Word in the book. I'm just as pissed, mostly shocked. What shocks me even more is after I explain I didn't know about her. She picks up a clothing iron and bangs me in the chest with it. I start getting up to leave, he grabs her and she goes off the deep end. Mad that he is protecting me.

"Well she starts beating him with the iron in the head.... [I] have on panties and a t-shirt and can't get the door open, she throws the iron at my head, I duck and it hits my arm. I run outside with no shoes on, no pants in the cold rain since she busted his head open and will definitely bust mine.

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Tags iron, assault, accidental mistress, cellular device

Ask Demetria: #NoOral's Girlfriend Explains Why She Stayed

demetria lucas September 26, 2016

Dear Demetria:

"Sorry to have ended our conversation so abruptly the other night. It’s hard to type and cry at the same time. How do I start this? After a car accident that almost claimed my life, I struggled. I couldn't take care of my son or myself. I was depressed and felt lost. In comes this dude, he's charming,

Pt2. fine, dresses nice, single, no kids.  He is a dream. I had no idea his mom took care of him. None! I didn't know he had so many children. He told me so many times how he wants children one day. Imagine my surprise when baby mamas are popping up. Everyone warned me, “girl he ain't shit! Leave him!”

Pt3 but they didn't see what I have seen. He was different until his ass wasn't... "

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Tags fuccboi behavior, no oral, gonnorhea in 2016?, R. Kelly, low self esteem

Ask Demetria: She Refuses to Give Me Oral Sex

demetria lucas September 22, 2016

Dear Demetria: 

"Been with shawty bout a year and some change and she don't give head. We living together now and things need to change. She don't cook, clean, don't do no woman stuff. If she not taking care of the house she need to at least take care of my needs right? She not trying to compromise."

You knew she didn't provide oral blessings when you moved in together, and you did that anyway. That's on you, homie. Everybody in the house needs to cook and clean and contribute to the upkeep of the home, that means you too. Are you doing your portion?

Also, what's the full story? I feel like I've been reading half stories all night. The oral thing is what it is. You knew she didn't do it, and because she's not cooking or cleaning doesn't mean you're entitled to the kind of sex that you desire. They're separate things and you gotta get off that. Is it all possible that her not cooking/cleaning is a passive aggressive response to you actually saying some wild ish to her like she needs to do oral or else? How did she keep her own home before ya'll moved in together?"

 

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Dear Demetria: 

That's whats trip. Her house use to be spotless. She used to cook all the time. Now all she does is use that mouth to fuss. She treats me like I am her b-tch instead of the other way around. Relationships is give and take. I do my part I make sure to take out the trash ,wash and maintain the cars,and fix things round the house. She needs to cook, clean and cater to her man. I didn't say act like it's the 50s, but come on, make your man feel like a man sometimes. I am not working right now, so I make sure my step son gets to school and peewee practice everyday plus help him with homework.

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Tags oral sex, ask demetria, unemployment, fuccboi behavior

Ask Demetria: Can I Find Love If I'm 30+ and Still Hit the Club?

demetria lucas August 18, 2016

Dear Demetria: 

How does a mid- to late-30s lady who goes out a lot, enjoys life with no kids but wants to be married with kids very soon deal with the judgments that no man will marry her if she’s like this? —Anonymous

Ugh. I hate the messages our culture sends to single women about what will make them “marriageable.” Not only are those messages mostly archaic, but they’re also wrong.

There’s no one type of woman who gets married. There are women who go out all the time, and they get married. And they continue to go out after they are married. (Marriage is not house arrest.) Women who sit home doing whatever they do in the house also get married. But if what it took to get married was staying home and not enjoying life, then every woman sitting in her house and complaining would have a ring and a husband. We both know that this is not the case.

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Tags ask demetria, dont waster your pretty, dating, relationships, dating over 30

Ask Demetria: I Want to Spend My Birthday Without My Boyfriend

demetria lucas August 10, 2016

Dear Demetria: 

I’m turning 30 this year and wanted to go away by myself. I told my boyfriend about it. He said, “OK,” then asked, “Where are we going?” Should I take it to mean he doesn’t want me to go solo? I made it pretty clear that I wanted to go by myself. I don’t want to hurt his feelings. How do I address that? —Anonymous

Huh?

Let me make sure I got this: You’re in a relationship, about to celebrate a milestone birthday, and you don’t want to spend it with your significant other?

Why not?

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